Trying to Get Pregnant Again? A Healthier Mindset for TTC After Loss or Infertility
It’s Okay to Ask “How Can I Get Pregnant This Time?” — But Let’s Be Gentle With That Question
If you’re standing at the edge of another fertility cycle — holding your breath, trying to stay hopeful — you’re not alone.
After a failed round, a loss, or months of disappointment, it’s natural to start searching for answers.
What can I do differently this time? How can I finally get pregnant?
I’ve asked those same questions — over and over. And while we can’t control outcomes, I’ve learned that how we hold these questions can either soothe our nervous system… or quietly stir up more panic.
This post isn’t about positive thinking or manifesting a baby. It’s about caring for your body and heart in a way that’s gentle, grounded, and deeply supportive — no matter what this cycle brings.
Make Space for Hope
How Can I Get Pregnant This Time?
Holding Hope and Fear as a Fertility Strategy
How to Prepare for a New Fertility Cycle Without Losing Yourself
When we’re getting ready to try again — whether through IVF, IUI, donor cycles, or naturally — we’re often told to “stay positive” or “just relax.”
But the truth is:
🌫️ Hope often comes tangled with fear.
💔 Longing shows up next to disappointment.
😔 You may be carrying grief from the last cycle while gearing up for the next.
You don’t need to push those feelings away. You need a way to hold them without letting them take over.
Step 1: Create Space for Fear and Doubt
Trying to suppress fear only makes it louder.
Instead, acknowledge it:
Write it down.
Say it out loud to someone safe.
Or visualize placing it in a container - not to ignore it, but to give it boundaries.
When fear is heard but not in charge, your nervous system softens. Hope has room to breathe.
When fear or doubt arises, visualize placing it into a container - holding space for it without letting it take over
Step 2: Support Your Nervous System Daily
Fertility stress doesn’t just live in your mind - it shows up in your body.
Daily practices like:
Breathwork
Gentle movement
Grounding exercises
Self-compassionate talk
…can support your body’s receptivity and emotional steadiness.
👉 Get ideas and tools to support this process here
Step 3: Shift From Outcome-Focus to Long-Term Vision
Instead of hinging your hope on this cycle, try expanding your vision.
Imagine your future self:
Holding your child
Feeling peace in your home
Living the life you're creating, not just the one you're chasing
When hope isn’t tied to a calendar, your heart can rest a little more.
Why I Believe This Works: My 11-Year Fertility Journey
I tried it all — IUI, IVF, PGD testing, donor eggs, donor embryos, even surrogacy.
And with every attempt came:
Hope.
Loss.
Devastation.
Starting again.
I lived the panic. I lived the grief.
And I also lived the slow transformation - from survival mode to something steadier.
Eventually, my daughter arrived. Not because I found the “right” protocol - but because I kept showing up, tending to my system, and staying connected to myself.
Trying Again Doesn’t Mean Starting Over - It Means You’re Stronger Now
Trying again doesn’t mean you’re back at square one.
It means you’re bringing everything you’ve learned - your wisdom, your resilience, your hope - into this next step.
✨ Replace thoughts of failure with pride.
✨ Let self-compassion take the place of self-blame.
✨ You’ve come this far - and that matters deeply.
You deserve gentleness - not pressure.
You deserve support - not silence.
You are not alone.
And you are not failing.
You are fighting to give love and life.
And that makes you extraordinary.
Need a little more support this time around? I’m here.
If this cycle feels especially tender, let’s talk. You don’t have to hold this alone.
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A Vision Your Heart Can Live In
Trying again doesn’t mean you’re starting over. You’re starting wiser. Stronger. More equipped.
Replace thoughts of failure with pride. Let self-appreciation take the place of self-blame. You’ve come this far — that matters deeply.
You deserve gentleness — not pressure.
You deserve support — not silence.
You are not alone.
And you are not failing.
You are fighting to give love and life.
And that makes you extraordinary.
If you need more support, I’m here. You’re welcome to reach out.
