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Four simple steps for the emotional side of fertility. No sign-up. Go at your own pace.

1

First

Put things in order

When you’re trying to conceive, everything blends into one big mess, like colors smeared together. Give each part its own color, and hold one at a time. That’s when it becomes manageable.

DecisionsTreatments, timing, next steps.
Your relationshipHow this affects you two, and investing in each other.
Lost dream, new visionGrieving the path you pictured, and making room for a new one.
Hope and visionA big place for hope, the power of your mind, and your vision.
A containerA place to put unpleasant feelings and thoughts, so they don’t spill into everything.
Space to regulateTime to calm your body and nervous system.
FinancesThe money strain.
People around youFamily, friends, siblings, baby showers, holidays.
Your sense of selfWho you are: success and failure, your value, sexuality, your body.

Tap a color. Pick one for today, give it your attention, and let the others wait. Whatever color you hold, connect it back to hope.

2

Today

Calm your body

Press play, close your eyes, and let your body settle. Twelve minutes.

Grounding meditation

Use it any day, and especially before a call, a scan or a transfer.

3

This week

One small tool a day

Ten short practices, a few minutes each: breathing, kind words to yourself, writing, gentle movement. Do one a day and keep what helps.

Start Day 1

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Whenever you need it

Support for the hard moments

Pick the one that fits today.

During the waitTest results, embryos, the days after transfer. A 4-minute calming practice. After hard newsWhat to do today, when a cycle didn’t work. A 6-minute video. Around family and holidaysQuestions, announcements, gatherings. A 4-minute video. When it all feels like too muchFind where the weight is, and start there.

You don’t have to do this alone

When you’re ready, reach out.

Talk with meA free 25-minute call. Join a groupHolding Hope, online, starting Nov 22. Find support near youGroups and fertility therapists in California.

Extra support

Online communities

Free Facebook groups where people on the same path share and support each other. They’re run by their members, so take what helps.

IVF, Infertility and Pregnancy Support GroupIVF, IUI, surrogacy and pregnancy Fertility support group (women trying to conceive)Women who are TTC Secondary Infertility-unfilteredTrying for another child FERTILITY 45+ WITH YOUR OWN EGGSTrying later in life Pregnant or Trying to Conceive with EndometriosisEndometriosis Surrogates and Intended ParentsSurrogacy journeys IVF Support Group for WOMENIVF, women only

More videos on my YouTube channel. These tools support you emotionally and don’t replace medical or mental health care. If you’re in crisis, call or text 988.